Why is Consent so Complicated?

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We used to teach that “no means no”... then “yes means yes.” These days we teach that consent in a sexual relationship requires a “continuous, verbal, and enthusiastic yes!” While we want to believe that having the right instructions will lead to good behavior, in reality, it is hard to teach someone how to be caring and respectful through a list of directions. We need to actually feel connected and believe that the other person’s wellbeing and desires matter. 

As parents, there is a lot we can do during and before our children’s adolescence to foster healthy, intimate relationships. Equipped with more meaningful information, the consent definition can become a useful reminder, rather than the main instruction manual. 

To help solve the problems around consent, we must look at our society’s deeply rooted gender socialization. For the purposes of this article, we are focusing on boys and girls, even though socialization impacts everyone, regardless of gender identity. Even if we buck stereotypes in our homes, gender norms are insidious. We need to talk directly with our children about being themselves despite pressures. To read the whole article, please click here.

Spring Break 2019


Spring Break is here. It’s time to relax and get ready for the fourth quarter and the end of the year rush! We have so many exciting things going on when we return: Spring Mini Courses, Prom, the Spring Arts Celebration and Silent Auction, and, of course, Senior Dinner and Graduation!

Our seniors are getting ready to leave us and we are celebrating the many college acceptances they have earned (with a little (or more than a little) help from Stacey)! I am so proud of each of them for all that they have accomplished. Honestly, I’m so proud of the entire Crefeld Community and honored to be part of it. Every day, I see the amazing work of artists, programmers, thinkers, scientists, poets, and risk takers.

Please enjoy the much deserved Spring Break.


A Head of School's Guide on How to Call a Snow Day


Step 1: 5:00 am - Wake up

Step 2: 5:03 am - Drink a Starbucks doubleshot

Step 3: 5:04 am - Start checking the “Philadelphia School Closings” websites

Step 4: 5:10 am - Cross reference districts that have closed or delayed with sending districts.

Step 5: 5:15 am - Start group text with several other school Heads

  1. Me - “Are you closing?”

  2. Head 2 - “I am thinking about it, you”

  3. Head 3 - “I think we are, but I haven’t made the call yet”

  4. Head 4 - “Hey, just joining in, did you see that Cheltenham just closed?”

  5. Me - “Philly is still on a delay!”

  6. Head 4 - “Philly never closes.”

  7. Head 3 - “I just made the call, we are closed!”

  8. Head 2 - “Me too!”

  9. Me - “Ugh, I am going to call now.”

  10. Me - “Stay safe!”

  11. Head 2 - “You too.”

  12. Head 3 - “Be careful”

  13. Head 4 - “Stay warm”

The biggest factor that goes into making the decision to close school is student and staff safety and how many of our sending districts have delayed or closed. There is a law in PA that requires school districts to transport their students to private school, if that private school is within 10 miles of the home district (if that district transports provides transportation to its own students). So I sit with a list of students from each district, with the largest number always coming from Philadelphia. So if Philadelphia delays or closes, so will we. But if two of the sending districts with a larger amount of Crefeld kids delay or close, we could easily lose 20% of our student population because those sending districts will not transport our kids, even if we stay open.

I hope this clears things up.

Stay safe. George

Difficult Conversations with Teenagers

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Earlier this year, one of Crefeld’s teachers, Sara Narva, wrote an article about having difficult conversations with your young person. I will share the article and it’s link here. Kudos to Sara for sharing this piece.

Before we talk about how to have difficult conversations, we need to appreciate you. Yes, YOU. You are a parent, doing one of the hardest jobs on the planet. Parenting is an enormous job that requires a wide range of skills in which most of us receive no formal training.

Similarly, children also have a very difficult job. They are young people in a society that disparages and dismisses them in many ways. They are bombarded with misinformation and glorification of risky behavior, and simultaneously expected to make healthy and safe choices. They are trying to figure out who they are and where they fit in the world. 

You and your young person love each other in a world where it is difficult to make time to connect. You are always doing your best (even when you wish you could do better) and they are always doing their best (even when you wish they could do better). 

Having difficult conversations is… difficult. Whether it’s talking about sex, dating, alcohol use, bullying, or even just how they are doing, it can feel challenging to talk to your teen. Here are a few ideas to help get you started, or to get back on track. To read the entire article, please click here.

The Coalition of Essential Schools

Recently, I had the pleasure of attending a conference to celebrate the work of Ted Sizer. Ted, along with his wife Nancy, and a few others like Deborah Meier and Dennis Littky, started the Coalition of Essential Schools (CES). This school reform movement began in the mid-80s and Crefeld became the 55th Essential School in the country in 1988. The 10 Common Principles of CES have guided The Crefeld School for 30 years. Deborah Meier was the opening keynote and she was as insightful and provocative as always. Here are two quotes from her speech that I want you to think about:

“When children are not heard, they have two options. They can believe that they do not deserve to be heard, or they can make you hear them.”

“Children spend 12 years in a school system that is thoroughly disrespectful to democracy.”

The conference ended by a moving address by Nancy Sizer, who spoke about the impact of her husband’s legacy. I was honored to be present.

The 10 Common Principles of The Coalition of Essential Schools:

  1. Learning to use one’s mind well

  2. Less is more: depth over coverage

  3. Goals apply to all students

  4. Personalization

  5. Student-as-worker, teacher-as-coach

  6. Demonstration of mastery

  7. A tone of decency and trust

  8. Commitment to the entire school

  9. Resources dedicated to teaching and learning

  10. Democracy and equity

If you ever want to stop by my office to talk about CES, the 10 Common Principles, or progressive education, my door is always open.